Diary of a newlywed

 About Reading:
The saying is true that readers are leaders. A lot of people go into marriage without adequate knowledge. Imagine we spending an average of 16years in school just to become what we are today. 6years in primary school, 6years in secondary school and a minimum of 4years in the University to become that accountant, that doctor and that teacher and to retire after 35years. It means to work for 35years in government, you need at least a schooling of almost half of those 35years!

Woow! Yet no form of schooling to enter an institution that we want to last forever.

Everyone assumes . Every one is assuming but only a few will not leave it's success to assumption. As we all know, assumption they say is the lowest form of knowledge. We assume we know how to handle relationship, we assume they know how a family is run, we assume we know how to raise a girl child, a boy child, how to handle in-laws, how to handle a teenager. We assume everything. At least we saw our parents. We forget the fact that our parents kept the real issues away from us while growing up so we can have a healthy childhood.

They display to us the honey, and suck the lemon closely behind doors. A lot of people get inside and realise their experiences are far on the opposing sides of their assumptions. I mean why will you be in a relationship or even married and have never attended a single seminar on relationship/marriage. I know some will say all the authors and speakers talk and write their own experiences... so what? At least it's still something to learn from or don't we learn from the experiences of people ahead of us?

If you haven't done any of the aforementioned, then you have a lot of work to do. Relationship in itself is hard work, you have to just tell yourself this thing must work. It's a lot of investment. We invest time, money, intellect and above all huge emotional investment. Dating my husband for 4years involved a lot of dellingence and consistency in ALWAYS doing the required, the expected and the intuited. While we will all agree that our schools did not put food on our table, it only prepared us for the task ahead.

Moreso, majority of us are not even earning an income by what we studied in school but schooling was largely contributory to our current level. It is the same with schooling for the sake of love. Going for marriage/ relationship seminars and reading may not completely solve your relationship or marital issues, but at least it will inform you, open your eyes and mind..it will help us make informed decisions.

Information is the first step in becoming a better person. Let's all get informed.

By Oluseyi Olukoya